I think it can be proven that purposefully single parenting is destructive; much more so than singleness resulting from death or abandonment by a spouse.
Of course, an intact mother and father parenting unit is vastly superior to all of these.
“Single-parent adoptions do not do well, either.”
“I think it can be proven that purposefully single parenting is destructive; much more so than singleness resulting from death or abandonment by a spouse.”
As a general rule, I would only allow married couples (or the legal spouse of the parent of the child in question) to be able to adopt, but would make an exception in the case of close relatives of an orphan (for example, if both parents died when the child was a minor, I’d allow his widowed grandmother or single uncle to adopt), since the familial bond would already be present. If two people can’t commit to marriage, how can they be trusted to provide a stable home to a child? And how could someone who does not have the support of a committed spouse take on the awesome (using the correct meaning of the word, as opposed to its modern use to describe pop songs and pizza) responsibility of raising a child with whom they don’t have any prior familial relationship? One does not even need to get into the subject of the damage done to children raised by gay parents in order to adopt common-sense rules that facilitate adoptions by the type of parents that would benefit the child (i.e., married couples, or close relatives of the child’s deceased parents) and prohibit adoptions by persons who don’t meet such criteria.
I walked out of a 4 year marriage to an abusive man, that side was never revealed until we had kids, it was the kids he directed his abuse towards...never looked back. Raised 2 healthy and happy boys. Took me a very long time to trust again. Chose wiser the second time around. We had 23 years before he was called Home.