This sad article implies that it’s only normal for people to expect some cash from their dead Mom and Dad. And it implies that most “Adult children” can hardly wait. This is what being a “slacker” is all about.
I plan on spending every dime (or at least work on it) before I go. My 18 and 15 year old are aware of this. I’m 54 and I don’t hesitate to pull $3,000 out of savings every now and then for a nice vacation or something I want. It’s not my responsibility to continue caring for them into their 40’s and 50’s!
Which is what I tell my mother in law. All I want from her is cookies for her grandchildren.