To make matters worse far worse, the parents play mind games with the kid. They tell him:
— “This is normal.”
— “These are the best days of your life.’
— “It's good for you. It will help you learn to deal with the real world.”
— “ We love you so much.” ( That is the cruelest mind game of all.)
Actions that an adult could take to court and win millions from their employer and have the perpetrator charged with a felony are **tolerated** by parents and our collectivist schools.
In the real world an adult can quit his job, move, and get police and court action. In the prison-like world of children they must learn prison survival skills, and form protection gangs ( cliques). Nearly all the social skills learned in school must be **unlearned** if the adult is to have any success in work, marriage, and the community. Thankfully, humans are resilient and most of us make the transition. Sadly, some do not.
To many, school is like falling down the rabbit hole and wandering around in Wonderland. For many it takes many years of adult living before they can climb back out of that rabbit hole and begin to see things clearly. Their parents **knew** school was hell hole, and they did nothing about it.
I know you have no love lost for pubskewl as a whole.
Certainly bullying is a place where even the better pubskewls fall down badly.
I think if push comes to shove, most dads would back their kid up in dusting off the bully. Not an ideal approach — the older generation of supposed leaders could stand to be more pro-active — but superior to being a doormat. I know my dad was furious when he learned I was getting bullied. He taught me the appropriate fisticuff moves (did you know a roll of pennies clasped in a fist serves much the same purpose as brass knuckles?), but he also went to that school in a rage and got in the face of the teachers. The bully kid, a scion of a school high muckety muck and a teacher, with the menacing activity happening in a coach’s class, caught it eight ways from Sunday. I never had to do the deed. I was lucky.