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I'm sorry you are a bitter little man...Apparently you were “falsely accused” of domestic violence and then screwed in divorce court.

Ha. Nice try, buddy, but no. However, I have seen what these situations have done to other men. And you are the one who should lighten up. If you were joking around about being controlled by your wife, then, yeah, I didn't catch that, but if you are such a manly man as you claim, you should also understand why that sort of thing would be repugnant. No need for you to get so defensive.

You missed the point, we share. And yes I value her opinion. I would be a fool not to. She is one of the most level headed people I know. Almost being killed by your ex. has a way of doing that although she was great prior. I, like you, have seen marriages go in the crapper. That is why I married late(28)and made sure of the one I was going to spend my life with. Most men think with their d^&ks and that is where that thinking leads. I still don't understand having a wife that you have no respect for. How do you respect someone you consider under you? I am asking a serious question. Maybe you are referring to males who are afraid of their wives or do in fact let the wife call all the shots. My real reference was to the times when I embark on some “project” and she generally is better at setting out a framework to accomplish said task. And I am happy to acknowledge her ability. If I wanted to move and told her the reasons she would start packing. On the other hand we had a situtation where she had a position in another state. She turned them down, no fuss, because she knew I didn’t want to leave.
It just seems to me you are looking for someone to slavishly accept your every command. I come from the old days where men respected women. I remember Ike.
The men I have known who fear the wife are those who chose the wrong mate and further have such low self-esteem that they fear loosing the wife and never finding anyone else. Perhaps that was your point. If so I agree with you on that.