You got it. In the United States, unless you are mentally disabled or have severe physical handicaps, the only thing stopping you from being self-supporting is your own attitude. And by "mentally disabled" I do NOT mean "having an inclination to become addicted to drugs or alcohol".
A girl in poverty can become self sufficient by simply (1) staying in school, paying attention, and learning to read, write, and do arithmetic, (2) not having kids until you are married to a stable man who has a stable job, and (3) finding a stable man and being a good wife to him.
A boy in poverty can become self sufficient by (1) learning to read, write, and do arithmetic, 92) not committing any crimes, and 93) being willing to work.
It's not that hard.
That would include being willing to relocate to where a job is.
And its going to get worse. Especially if Obama gets reelected.
It’s not that hard.