Jane Austen was an excellent technician, told a good story, based her character and plot development on value judgments, wrote about what she knew, and happened to be of the female persuasion, making her a goddess to modern "oppressed" gals.
Modern "overbearing" men (and that's all of us, ya know), can easily see the life lessons, ethics and morals in her works are equally valuable to men, but we can't get through the shrill nasal whining to tell the gals so.
So it's off to Hooters for wings.
The problem, in a nut shell, is that women need to learn to love what they have, not love what they DON'T have....maybe, if they did they would find BOTH.
That's my personal observation of several relationships, both successful and not.