Posted on 04/18/2012 6:59:33 AM PDT by Kaslin
Are you a woman or a man?
As much as the majority of people don't want to acknowledge this, it is true.
In the bigger picture, men are generally builders and warriors, women are reasons for building and combat, and men will engage when the reasons are worthwhile.
Quickly building becomes a society, and combat becomes protection, and the reasons are still worthwhile.
Looking a little farther, women are also similar to society, culture, and nation, men will support and protect that which is worthwhile. Note that in western languages major constructs (nations, societies, ships, buildings ect) are assigned the feminine pronoun for reference.
Men build and protect entire civilizations for women.
The big problems come when a large number of women become unworthy of the effort, there is much less motivation to produce and protect. Finally, if a man is not allowed to keep enough of his production for himself to make his life bearable, the societal construct will not be maintained or protected, then we start over.
Romantic, isn't it, I expect to hear from the gals shortly.
Check out the website www.themarriagebed.com. (I am not affiliated in any way) It’s a Christian marriage & relationship forum. Lots of people in many different situations go there to ask questions, share advice and offer encouragement.
Many of the forum topics are very blunt, so it’s not for the easily offended... I wouldn’t let the wife know you are interested in the site, though. She’ll interpret it that you are trying to figure out what is wrong with her, and that’s not what you need right now. Anyway, that’s my free advice of the day; worth every penny. ;)
She was lucky to have such a good man and I’m sorry you lost such a loving wife.
...then you’re in my prayers sir! Finding a “virtuous woman” is very hard these days. I know that my wife would never leave or cheat on me, that’s hard enough to find - so I consider myself quite lucky.
In general I think it’s becoming obvious just how lost the world is becoming. We behave like children, and it’s not getting better. All of this “man made” wisdom is coming to fruition...I wonder what we’ll do then ;)
She's already left the marriage then. Once you can no longer come together physically it's simply a matter of time before one or other says it's done. She's saying it's done, but wants him to be the one to call it.
Bushmills? That’s protestant whiskey. Jameson! :)
...I wouldn’t mind the entire list! :)
Despite the feminists there are still some of us who weren’t a part of that nonesense. ..never were.
But I can’t say I would blame men for looking outside the country. There’s very few young ladies today who remotely understand what relationships are and are completely self-centered.
For a worldy man there’s no reason to get married...he can have it all without a commitment to one woman...and woman have made that possible.
Why should he do those things? What’s the return value for the investment today?
BTW....whoever wrote that is looking for a Father not a Husband.
Sorry, no, that's not near enough for many floozies (and sadly, it seems that nowadays, most women are floozies).
My brother held a job. Worked 12 hours a day to make a decent living so that he and his wife could afford to own a home and send their kids to Catholic school.
My brother “stayed zipped and was faithful.”
My brother has never touched drugs, and eventually gave up even social drinking to keep the household budget on track. See “homeownership and Catholic school” above.
My brother never hit his wife.
And indeed, none of the above were the reasons she gave me for divorcing him. Here's what she told me, herself:
- he works too many hours;
- he's put on weight.
Yep - that's it. 10 years of marriage and two kids, and, well, he works too many hours and got pudgy.
The real reason was that she was screwing everything with a protrusion that would risk disease with her (including my sister's husband) and she'd taken a training course or two in computer programming and her high school-educated blue-collar husband just wasn't snazzy enough anymore.
I'd call her a whore, but even a whore has some idea (though misguided) of her own value.
sitetest
Typical male response.
I'm a woman just for the record... And will say again whoever wrote that is looking for a Father not a husband. Read it again... it's obvious.
[If she loves you, she shows it by making an effort to make you happy.]
That’s true, but it’s a two way street. A ‘giver’ finally stops giving when they receive nothing in return.
I don't know all the details. Just get snippets in between set's at the weight racks. I think she loves him just not interested in the sex part.
You notice the last part of my post was "(and yes, it works in the other direction too)".
A relationship works when each party values what they get from the other, and considers the cost of keeping the other happy to be more than worth the benefit they get from the work the other person performs to make them happy.
A relationship is in deep trouble when one or both parties decides it's too much work to keep the other happy.
And it's also only about "me, me ,me". If I met a woman like that I would run like the wind.
Well if she’s in her 40’s or close to it might just be she’s pre-menapausal and needs hormones. Suggest to him to have her hormone levels checked. If she refuses then he has his answer...she’s done.
A friend of mine had the experience of his wife losing interest in sex with him. Turns out she still was interested in sex, just not with him.
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