Posted on 03/26/2012 4:26:15 AM PDT by Kaslin
Hope you have good health insurance, or Budget for psychiatry- very expensive and age 13 ends a golden time
yes Thank God for them, and Thank God for us, it can be rather thankless sometimes, especially when your peers are traveling, gardening, putzing, taking up yoga, and migrating to winter condos in Del Boca Vista
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I was making a tounge in cheek reference to a Modest Proposal by Jonathan Swift.
Once.
Do you know what the legal fees are?
and the bribery fees to grease the skids for a foreign born child.
Do you know that birth mother can change her mind and have the court take the child away from you?
Yes. I still remember the case a few years ago - can't remember the name, but the father had a full beard, the son's name (I think) was Daniel and, while he was being taken away, he was crying, stating "I'll be good".
I'll never forget that.
Would you agree to an “open adoption” where the birth parents have visitation rights?
No, because then it is no longer an adoption.
Change those laws, and adoption may become more popular.
You have a studied ignorance of satire and irony.
“I used to love beer, but I had tequila!”
His “studied ignorance of satire and irony” may come in useful at age 66 as he today finalizes his adoption of 12/13 yr old siblings, one already diagnosed with a serious lifelong mental illness
People who take on children with these challenges and do so with JOY are God’s helpers who walk on earth - men who at age 66 commit to raise and father the children of other men are extra special
> Hope you have good health insurance, or Budget for
> psychiatry- very expensive and age 13 ends a golden time
I have a biological child diagnosed as bipolar. Academically and functionally competent, but there was a manic episode that just stunned us. We were not prepared. Our adopted special needs kids didn’t require as much help.
> You have a studied ignorance of satire and irony.
I have adopted children, among them a sibling group, some with special needs, and know from experience.
And you?
Ours (non-bio sibs adopted age 4) have both been fully evaluated by a reknowned international adoption expert and neuropsychologist who has seen thousands of kids, written many books and articles, travels the world to conferences, and who adopted 7 kids himself (at least one with FAS)
In his experience 90% of us international adoptees will have children with problems that impair them, physically or mentally. Somehow we have to get them to adulthood and successful independence, Hopefully most of us will make it
Adolescence and hormones are hard enough without the baggage and unknown genetics these kids bring into our lives
My sweet precious attached loving little girl now 14 is morphing before our eyes, possibly a genetic organic mental illness cause that emerges in teens, making our autistic son look like the one who is going to be easier to live with
So- good luck and God Bless us all
> Ah, so you have been through the mill
As have you.
Everything you said is 100% spot on, spoken from real experience.
Hang in there!!
God will not give you more than you can bear, and I believe with all my heart that you will be blessed for your efforts in the end.
> My sweet precious attached loving little girl now 14 is
> morphing before our eyes, possibly a genetic organic mental
> illness cause that emerges in teens,
By the way, this is virtually a TEXTBOOK description of bi-polar disorder!
We also know this from experience.
That’s the bad news.
The good news is that bipolar disorder is among the most treatable of all mental illnesses.
More good news is that it afflicts people of above-average intelligence. Once your child’s brain chemistry is balanced, you will find that she is rational, bright, and quite normal.
The brain is an organ, in the same way as the pancreas is an organ. If the chemistry of the pancreas goes awry, you will be diagnosed as hypoglycemic or diabetic. If the brain chemistry goes awry, you can be diagnosed as “bipolar”.
Untreated, bipolar disorder can present psychotic episodes, complete with paranoia (believing you want to harm her or worse) and even hallucinations.
With counseling and medication, bipolar disorder can be managed very nicely.
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Have you seen this.... http://news.yahoo.com/forced-adoptions-for-unwed-mothers-around-the-globe.html ?
so what is your point? That there are a significant number of adopted babies who were actually stolen?
Note I said “significant” number. Family pressure or even social pressure 40-60 years ago on an unwed girl to give up her baby for adoption does not a stolen baby make, though as in any cause, there are women who consider themselves victims
international adoption by US citizens these days is rather tough and limited to a handful of countries because of US laws that prohibit adoptions in countries where “baby selling” is proven or cannot be ruled out. Canadians and europeans have many more international options because their laws are not the same.
I thought it was an interesting article. Did you notice that many of the people they talked to were from other countries?
Then I remembered it was Lent.
I thought it was an interesting article. Did you notice that many of the people they talked to were from other countries?
Then I remembered it was Lent.
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