Putting an "equal responsibility" label on the current situation (woman gets custody of the kids, man pays for her to raise the kids) subsidizes illegitimacy and divorce: women can get the man's money without marriage to the man.
Because that is not at all what I meant. You seem to be playing the game of not clearly stating your position, and then objecting to what other people didn't actually say.
It is the standard societal motif; so you not subscribe to it?
Usually when people say that the father needs to be responsible, they mean that the father should fork over more cash while the mother gets to actually parent.