“Meaning he has one kill, not the old standard of 5.”
In other words, he is not an ace. Sorry, charlie, but you don’t become an ace by shooting down one plane.
“As far as the “flaming assholes” designation, by who’s example are you basing it on, your own?”
Yes, I was a flaming asshole sometimes. Less so than others, but I wasn’t famous for my charm. That is why I fit well in a fighter squadron. There were a LOT of fighter pilots who were flaming assholes. There has never been a fighter squadron in history without them - or us, if you prefer.
But McSally was different. She was out for herself. She was going to be a feminist icon, and damn anyone who got in the way. Her career was based on politics, not flying or combat.
Odds are very good she was never, ever shot at while flying. Some of us don’t call that combat. I was shot at, but so poorly that I don’t call it combat either. But then, I wasn’t trying to make my career by boasting of being a hero - and using hero standards that would only apply to a woman.
I am a pilot myself with over 15,000 hours in various aircraft. (P-51, F-4U, C-46 among them.) I flew under part 91, Cargo mostly. A flew airshows, etc, owned my own FBO. for a few years. In the process, some of the best pilots I have ever known were Women. (Some, rather HOT ones included! Ever Heard of Patty Wagstaff?)
My point is, what ever your problem is with Women pilots, go in for help for it if you need to, but deal with it. It's not a healthy outlook.