The solution to all this is to size women’s clothes like men’s - by actual measurement.
If you have a 28” waist, that’s your waist size, and your inseam is 28” then voila.
Of course that would throw the whole “vanity sizing” feel good crap out the window.
I have never figured out sizing for women’s pants. I might own 2 pair. Because I don’t wear pants when I decide to “dress up” I pretty much stick to jeans and only wear men’s. Far easier to buy by the waist and inseam.