Just wow.
All I can say is that I am thankful that God doesn’t have the same opinion as you. He is the originator of the concept of adoption.
“Behold what manner of love the Father hath bestowed upon us, that we should be called the sons of God..” 1 John 3:1
ps: I hope your sons, if you have any, don’t read your spiel about the connection between a mother and her daughter. You would lay down your life for your daughter but not your son?? Sheesh.
Good catch. I don’t know why I emphasized mother and daughter, because it would apply equally well to mother and son. I’d like to include fathers in there, but I don’t have sufficient anectdotal evidence to suggest that the biological bond works the same way with fathers.
It could well be true, but it might also be that a non-biological father would be no different from a biological father. It does seem that biological fathers have a much easier time walking away from their children than biological mothers do.
I guess I should also note that since it’s all anecdotal anyway, it’s probably hard to distinguish whether the connection between mother and child is due to the biological connection, or because of the 9 months of attachment. There just aren’t enough surrogates around to make even anecdotal claims.
Beyond that error on my part, your response is about what I am used to. I feel there is a fear many have that granting a superiority to one relationship necessarily implies not just an inferiority, but a flaw in other relationships.
This generally is manifested in moves to stop grading people, or calling winning teams “winners” because of negative connotations if you don’t have the highest grade, or weren’t on the winning team. Like we can’t say one student had a perfect score, because it would make other students feel like something was wrong with them.
As I try to explain, but it never seems to take, one can support adoption, and see it as a good and healthy thing, without denigrating the superiority of the biological connection. I think we do a disservice if we try to pretend that there is nothing special about biology, just because we want adoptive parents and adopted children to feel better about themselves.
I am adopted in God’s family, but I don’t feel slighted that I am not therefore identical to the Son of God, who was not adopted but who instead is the “biological child”. I don’t feel less loved because God is perfect and will perfectly love all his children, and for the most part adoptive parents can likewise love their adopted children as if they were their biological offspring — especially when they could have no biological offspring, but even when they can.
But the biological connection is special. Just as a loving, two-parent home with both biological parents is the “best” situation for a child, even though if that isn’t possible, a step-father or step-mother is better than not, and an adoptive family is better than a foster family, and a foster home is better than a group home.
It’s much easier to get agreement on this argument if I just say that a two-parent opposite-sex married couple is better for a child than a same-sex couple. But it’s all part of the same argument.