Ok, I guess I misread your post. Sorry.
No problem. I could be wrong, but when I see a such a reaction, the possibility that the poster has been “burned” pops into my head. I was burned, too. The interesting thing about FR is that the FReepers assume that the woman is invariably the parasite. I *paid* to get rid of him. (He dumped me, but I decided it was a good idea.) He contributed zero to child support. It turned out to be a very good investment for me, because life is good now.
I wish you a Joyous, Healthy and Prosperous New Year, and please remember that we’re rooting (routing? ruting?) for you, however you spell it! :)