I take it that you agree with Benjamin Franklin’s advice:
http://www.swarthmore.edu/SocSci/bdorsey1/41docs/51-fra.html
I think somone smarter than me simplified Ben’s advice.
They don’t yell, they don’t swell, they don’t tell, and they are grateful as hell.
Kinda crude though, but humorous.
In all sincerity, feminism ,politeness, graciousness,just being a lady, are rapidly becoming lost options.