You used hyperbole, and I’ll bet others used hyperbole, too. The dog-gone thing is that Jerry has admitted to showering with young boys, and to hugging them while naked. He says he did “some of those things”. So why is Dottie defending him? I understand wanting to defend your spouse, but surely she can say “Jerry, showering with those boys was wrong!”
It is no longer a leap of faith for one to think that Jerry did the other vile acts, too. Someone (Jerry) who doesn’t see anything wrong with showering with boys might also think it’s OK to sexually abuse them in other ways. The insanity has to stop.
I can see how a woman might miss some things happening. I can’t see how Dottie thinks that it’s okay that her husband showered with these boys. His words. He spoke them. And yet she dares to say that they’re making ALL of this up?
There is such a thing as a woman’s instinct. It’s that gut feeling that something just isn’t right, and you can’t shake it no matter how much you try to persuade yourself otherwise.
I really believe that Dottie knew something, and it was more convenient to disregard her gut. She is really in for something when she finally starts to admit that she looked the other way all this time. It will be devastating for her.
You are entitled to your opinion. I think criticizing people in these situations is like shooting fish in a barrel, just too easy. You refer to “Dottie” as if you know her. I know I don’t. She may be the biggest scum on Earth, she may be a saint. No idea that’s why I don’t like those who know just what happened and why.
As for womens’ intuition, I’ve been around a long time and have never seen it to exceed male intuition. Real women’s intuition is not just figuring things out, it’s supposed to be an esp where maybe you know your kid is in trouble without any info you just get a feeling. Figuring out your husband or wife is screwed up is not esp. IMHO.