For your fathers and my father generation the last thing they wanted was feel weak and useless. I say let him do as he wants even if he chooses to do something you think is silly at their ages...
But if there is a estate I would encourage him to make a will, revocable trust and Medical Power of Attorney...For that you need to find a good lawyer that works only in the area of estates and probate...just choose a time you think he will be open to the suggestion..
If he is not open to such a suggestion,you could explain that if he passed before his wife, she might have a hard time understanding and doing what would be required of her to do.......good luck and God Bless
Thank you, he has taken care of the will and trust. The other stuff amounts to very little and those seem to be the things that he holds on to so much like closing his business/hobby that runs in the red.
And your words ring true “I say let him do as he wants even if he chooses to do something you think is silly at their ages...”
I feel the same way and I preach that.