That's all well and good at work.
In interpersonal relationships, it's domineering. Or bitchy. Or something. It's not good, in any case.
I'm sure you're very proud of your daughter.
If I were her age ... and single ...
I wouldn't touch her with a 10 foot pole.
Sorry.
Has nothing to do with being "intimidated"
Has everything to do with not needing the drama. I have enough trouble with high-maintenance, hyper-competitive jackasses at work. I don't need it at home.
I'm sure that's not what you wanted to hear. It's the truth as I see it.
And if you're thinking that I must be some sort of arrogant bastard ....
Actually - it would probably be reasonable to agree with your comment: “And if you’re thinking that I must be some sort of arrogant bastard ....”
You see ...my daughter is very much like her mother - my wife of 29 years - who is also very competent, very accomplished, very capable - and was taught by HER father to be self-reliant and independent - so that she would not be taken advantage of by car salesmen, auto repair shops, or some “Don Juan” who might try to take advantage of her. (Like the daughter - the mother is also an ICU Nurse who can be strong/assertive when needed.)
The wife/mother was never domineering or bitchy, or something .... No drama here at home ...no financial problems or stresses because we both trust each other - and we tend to make good decisions! I would not have been as attracted to a woman who was less capable and more “dependent” on a guy to make decisions for her.
It is just that I was equally independent, competent - and more conservative....and quite capable of providing competent leadership in the home that she could trust in.
I guess my daughter is looking for someone like her father - and she doesn’t want to relax those high standards.