Likewise - I do small, pay it forward, types of gifts when friends or family are in financial trouble. And I don’t always tell my husband. We each take a small amount each week that is ours to spend as we like.
There’s nothing wrong with that. We are our brother’s keeper. It’s the intention that counts. And I’ve seen nothing (other that what this woman has tried to allege) that there was anything improper in this case. She claims affair yet says it wasn’t about sex. Well, then what was it about? No one asks that. Yet a lot, even on this forum, love to pile on. It’s disgusting and shameful.