“Not many people would say that.”
You’d be surprised. In my group therapy, it was almost 50%. And we were only discussing jail, not death.
The thing that people rarely understand is that long-term child molesters tend to recognize and groom susceptible children - children who’ve been emotionally neglected their whole lives. The abuser makes him or herself emotionally important to the victim, creating a situation where the abuser is relatively safe because the victim - while not liking the physical relationship - becomes dependent on the emotional one.
Often, the abuser is the first person in a child’s life to show that child what the child comes to think of as non-physical parental love and affection.
Those feelings don’t easily go away. That’s part of the reason why adult survivors of child sexual abuse have so many conflicts over actually comprehending that they were genuinely victims in a criminal situation.
No, *I* would not be surprised.
Grooming or courtship depend on definition and one merges into the other at some tipping point.
Criminality depends on a fluctuating state of law.
Susceptibility depends on a degree of neglect/abuse that is often legally ignored.
Most people dislike somnething in relationships with other people.
And conflicts are created by the expectations based on cultural norms and religious influences as by anything else, which the individual cannot be allowed to resolve except to please others.