[Jack Hammer]

If you’re just starting out, you’d be well advised to begin with a revolver, rather than a semi-auto, and a .22 rather than a larger caliber.

A nasty initial experience can turn one off to further shooting, and a mild and simple firearm to start with is a good idea.

[Jonty30]

Or one could go to a gun range and work up to being able to handle a revolver.

[Bulwyf]

A good semi auto is much easier to handle than a revolver... an unexperienced person would have a negligent discharge much easier with a revolver.

A good 1911 style like a browning high power 9mm is a great start. Although even a good Kimber .45 isn’t hard to learn on, and recoil is quite manageable even for the younger shooters.

[Toadman]

A while back I bought a S&W 642 Hammerless for my wife. It's made of Scandium and ridiculously lightweight. However, it can handle 357 Magnum. Thank God I shot it before my wife! It felt like a sledgehammer smashed my hand.

Reloaded with 38 Plus P and it handles quite well. Wife loves it.

[Kit cat]

Thank-you for this info, I to am going to buy a gun for the first time.
Fired a gun once in my life on a date at the firing range. I am absolutely
lost as to what kind of gun to purchase, however have been looking
at a small pistol it does seem much less intimidating and feels easy
to handle. Don’t know though if this is strong enough to take someone
down.