I learned it on FR ;-).
Makes you wonder about the women, doesn’t it?
I wonder about a LOT of women's life-choices! Unless one is thinking about AIDS, there's not a lot of difference between marrying a homosexual philanderer and a heterosexual one. An agreement to have a couple of kids, perhaps ... a certain amount of discretion ... and then they live separate lives.
I would imagine this could happen more “secretly” in olden times. For one thing, the couple could remain chaste without today’s morality standards. So, the wife finds out on her wedding night that he isn’t interested. Then what? Does she file for divorce? Well, women of that time who divorced were seen in bad terms. Plus, many women didn’t openly discuss such situations even with family. Strange stuff!