my Bible is quite specific on what will happen to you if you fail to care for an aging parent
I personally know of a man who is approx. 450 lbs. Can’t get to the bathroom, can’t do anything. It completely exhausts him to try to walk 15 steps. All he does is eat. Has diabetes, open sores, no spouse, no children. Family members are ‘trying’ to care for him, as best they can. What do you do for a man or a person who is so big they can’t wipe their own backsides? And family members are unable to move that much weight to do it either! Refuses to wear Depends, wets himself where he sits, day in and day out. Has gotten 3 bad infections on the blubber of his belly laying on his legs, wet with urine. Ambulance has to obtain special chair/bed to transport him to a hospital. Lying in a regular hospital bed is so painful because of his weight and the ‘thin mattress’, has to have special thicker mattress because of the weight...Can’t get an MRI he’s ‘too big’ to see into what they are looking at/for. Can’t have surgery because he wouldn’t withstand the anastesia(sp?). You can’t stand the ammonia urine smell if you enter his house. You can’t stand the smell standing outside 4 feet from him. He doesn’t care. Wants more food. That’s ALL he thinks about. Yes, it is some kind of disease. No, not obesity, this has to be some kind of mental/emotional disease. I personally don’t think he cares if he dies. But for years, he hasn’t wanted or attempted to diet. Although doctors have urged him. They told him if he didn’t lose weight, there really isn’t anything further they can do to help him.
Have you ever tried to lift a 450 lb person? I can’t. I couldn’t roll him or lift him to wash his buttocks, if I tried, and I haven’t. Where does a person turn for help for someone like this? Then of course there’s the age, insurance, etc to deal with. What’s ‘allowable’ per the insurance laws etc. Family members give up, they eventually stop arguing, prodding, begging, and just get him the food he wants.
IIRC, it was last year that a guy left his wife on the toilet so long that she fused to it. He fed her in the bathroom but claimed she had mental issues and refused to get up. Friends and neighbors finally reported it after not seeing her for months. Disgusting.