“I personally believe that couples who can’t get pregnant and desire children are being providentially called to adopt. I could be wrong, but that’s how I see it. There are children out there who need parents.”
ITA. I was in a work situation a few years ago where a lesbian manager and her “wife” were “having” an ivf child. I was really annoyed by the pressure they put on us to think this was “wonderful”. I wanted to say “I don’t approve of 2 women purposely bring a child into this world who didn’t ask to be born in this situation to begin with and deliberately depriving him of his father on purpose. If you truly believe you are lesbians, then maybe that’s a sign not to reproduce in the first place since human reproduction can only happen heterosexually.” But of course, I would’ve been fired immediately for stating an obvious truth.
“a lesbian manager and her “wife” were “having” an ivf child.”
It does put us in a weird response mode. The child him or herself is a wonderful thing and should be celebrated. But the whole structure around him or her is so violently wrong it is hard to know how to respond.