Cuban Leaf,
Thank you for your understanding.
An ordeal like that is extremely hard to go through, and the ramifications of it never go away for the victim or the parent, and for a spouse either I would suppose.
There are always memories and times of anger, more there are times of wondering where that person may be, will he ever show up again. That kind of thing.
And to speak here has me in tears. My heart is broken right now. The pain and hurt... and embarrassment NEVER goes away. Can you imagine how hard it was to speak here!
I have been SO upset that those conservative leaders I thought a lot of are now mocking people who have been through some sort of sexual hurt. I don’t know if we are talking rapes or assault or just words and actions... perhaps even if they were words and actions, some of those ladies and girls may be more sensitive because something horrible had already happened to them in their lives. Who knows?
But I have seen first hand how much it hurts and how horrible the consequences are, like the consequences of seeing those conservative leaders I used to respect mock victims, not even giving them a chance to get their word out and they are mocking them. Of course, I also understand how hard it is to come forth with these things and I don’t know how many we will see have the courage to come out like I just did here.
But let me tell you there are consequences, for the victim and for their loved ones, and it hurts me greatly to see the SMUCK coming out of some of our conservative leaders right now.
I HATE listening to them verbally hurt people who HAVE ALREADY BEEN HURT.
I don’t care if she got $35,000 or $3,500,000.000. NOTHING makes up for the scaring one has to live with for the rest of their lives, and the rest of their family member’s lives too. NOTHING.
And conservatives stand up and applaud this man who has taken the lives of others into his own hands and have made a mess of their lives.
I am cc ing another poster named Chasaway who has just mentioned this to me, the horrible words and actions we are now seeing from conservatives.
What Chasaway mentioned was the hypocrisy of the political scene - that it is OK to go after John Edwards but not after Herman Cain.
Oh, I have felt that too.
But I have felt something FAR more personal.
My own fellow conservatives are telling me that my daughter and my family, and all other victims like us, are not worthy of caring for, not worthy of standing up for; and ripe for abuse for the REST of our lives now.
I wonder how many more young ladies, old ladies, and family members have felt left out by our conservative media and pundits these days. I wonder how many more have cried all throughout this week as we have been mocked and degraded when it was US to were at the mercy of HORRIBLE people who did something HORRIBLE to another person.
And if someone wants to focus on what was done exactly and what was not, that is at least somewhat understandable at this point. Even I am willing to wait to see the facts that come out as they are in bits and pieces.
But to mock this and belittle this and keep VICIOUSLY supporting this horrible man who AT THE VERY LEAST HAS LIED AND COVERED UP ACTUAL EVENTS (ie actually-occurring business complaints and actual cash settlements), makes those of us who know real pain feel more pain than anyone can imagine.
And to think... that pain now has to come from our conservative leaders.
Those who do that..... Well..... NONE of you people deserve to have children who look you in the eye and say “Mom... Dad.... I’m scared to tell you but.... “
“My own fellow conservatives are telling me that my daughter and my family, and all other victims like us, are not worthy of caring for, not worthy of standing up for; and ripe for abuse for the REST of our lives now.”
You have gone a bit off the deep end, here. We’re not talking about rape. Believe me, if there was any evidence of that, it’d be a lot more than hint-hint, nudge-nudged. And if we are, or something short of it that’s nevertheless nothing to joke about or dismiss curtly, don’t blame us. Because we cannot be held responsible for the reluctance of women to come forward in general, given the madness of sexual harassment law and the litigious nature of our society.
Much less can we be blamed for the vague and ever changing implications. Maybe we wouldn’t cast shame over victims of real abuse if reporters could tell us what abuse, if any, happened. Rather than trying to extract as much scandal as possible without revealing anything that anyone could pin them down on.