Maybe I'm just hard-hearted, but I find it hard to develop much pity or sympathy for someone who would dump "an exceptional person, intelligent, good-looking, loyal, kind" after three years for reasons she can't even articulate.
A spoiled child ... she made her bed, now she can sleep in it. Alone.
“Maybe I’m just hard-hearted, but I find it hard to develop much pity or sympathy for someone who would dump “an exceptional person, intelligent, good-looking, loyal, kind” after three years for reasons she can’t even articulate.”
This is not surprising at all. “Niceness” is actively off-putting for women, as much as ugliness in women is to males. Women do *not*, above all other things, want a weak man. “Niceness” is just another word for “weakness”. Degrees, intelligence, etc. can never make up for weakness.
Don´t fall into the trap of believing the feminist claptrap about wanting a “nice guy”. If you want the musical version of this eternal truth, you can get it here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfeys7Jfnx8
My son was recently dumped by a girl who told him he was “too sweet”, “too kind” and she didn’t get any “tingles” when they held hands. (Since he is an honorable young man, he kept the physical relationship at that level, saving the best for the marriage.) He has been walking around the past several weeks like a zombie, wondering what he did/didn’t do to cause such a reaction. When he questioned her about her reasons, she forbade him from talking to her for a month, telling him he’d be over it then. How can a good man be “too kind”?
Right on, man.
" Why did she discard him? "Something was missing."
That something is a combination of maturity and the notion that there exists something worthwhile beyond the self.
According to my calculations, she would have been 28 about
2000. ISTR recall media articles about shortage of men
for women over 30 before that. At one time, any woman
over 25 would have realized the time had come to think
seriousl about marriage.