Posted on 10/28/2011 5:09:34 AM PDT by Kaslin
Don’t kid yourself about pre-nups, it’s not uncommon for family court judges just to toss them out.
As an aside, Devlin wrote a good series on the topic:
“Home Economics, part one”:
http://www.thornwalker.com/ditch/devlin_home_ec_01.htm
And who you are. In fact, it all comes down to who you are, and whether you decide to receive the truth (for free!) or buy the lies.
Happily married for 18 years to an amazing man. Feminists would eye him for his good looks, but then dismiss his blue-collar job and our modest home as "beneath" them. They completely overlook everything that makes him amazing; his faithfulness, honesty, passion, compassion, hysterical sense of humor, willingness to sacrifice for his family, and strong faith in God.
Like you, I have no pity for these women. It should come as no surprise that amazing men don't want them.
A committed feminist raising a daughter who is conflicted about marriage? Who would have thunk it?
That is where it gets tricky, doesn’t it? Women are judged primarily for their looks and men for their wallets. Both are fleeting... or can be. Reminds me of a woman that was assigned to my Mother (who was a R.N.) The woman was stunningly beautiful.. worked out everyday and had the plastic surgery to make herself more glamorous to her wealthy, Alpha husband. The woman had both breasts removed due to breast cancer. In recovery, her husband told her he was leaving her and that he “couldn’t stand to be married to a freak without T*ts”.
After 18 years of marriage, I love my husband now more than on the day we married. He is not only my husband, he is the man of my house, the sharer of my life, and the beloved father of our children.
LOL I love your dissertation, and you put a lot of thought into it, and certainly it does match a lot of women.
Obviously you speak from experience.
You have definitely met and consorted with at least one of those of which you make such a brilliant description.
Yes: Those kind are out there and it is a growing phenomenon.
Much of what you describe was brought on and instigated by the feminist movement, the same movement that supports abortion to get rid of the children which might hold the marriage together. No kids, No responsibilities, an easy out.
I bet there is a freeper woman who will answer your argument with the woman’s side. LOL it will be fun to see.
All arguments have two sides.
We have been married now for six years (coming this 10th of November). I've considered myself lucky and blessed for all that I have been given in my life.
First, if they are married to 8:s, that means that they aren´t *that* beta per definition. Beta and “family man” aren´t synonyms in my lingo, rather:
Alpha: Attractive man to women. (8-10)
Beta: Moderately attractive man. (5-7)
Omega: Actively offputting to women. (1-4)
But sure, that´s the good thing about alcohol (and the surrounding social strictures) - it allows one to maintain multiple personalities.
Especially useful for subdued cultures like the Swedes or the Japanese, even in non-sexual contexts. Work hard and shut up during the day, get wasted and say what you really think about your boss after hours, in a socially accepted fashion. What´s not to like?
It’s really quite simple. Why buy the cow when the milk is free?
A few years ago, I came across a study which showed the probability of ever getting married dropped sharply if she had never been married by age 30.
The study didn't go into likely reasons. My own hypothesis is that a woman who hasn't found somebody who meets her criteria by 30, has unreasonable expectations. Additionally, for every year that you're living by yourself, you become more used to being independent and less willing to compromise in a relationship. After 30, more and more of the supply viable potential husbands have been mostly snatched up, and women over 30 have to compete with women under 30 for the rest.
Hey! We don’t need any yankee feminists moving down here.
I plan on doing so. Congrats on the 18 yrs. Keep it up.
I am so happy for you, Bluelancer! Wonderful blessings aren’t a one chance only. You got two.
We used to fight every day, practically. Now we hardly have a cross word for each other.
And I think that is why a lot of marriages fail. First big argument and it's over. Well, I don’t know everybody in the world, but I would be willing to bet BIG money that no one in the world can live with another person for any length of time without some major disagreement happening.
You decide that this is the person that you want to live with, and then you stick with it (absent violence or adultery). That's the only way to make it. And a little hep from God doesn't hurt any, either.
I stopped at the 5th floor. WINNER!
OTOH, I've known a LOT of gals who fit to a T your description.
Classy guy.
One very important point though: Cash is nice for men to have, but it´s not *the* most important thing. The most important thing is what we can perhaps term psychosocial dominance. Or just “manliness” in short. A poor man with plain looks who acts with confidence and assertiveness can often compete with better-looking richer men who act weak.
There are some rather extreme examples of this. For instance, the well-publicized tendency for mass murders to have a lot of pull with women:
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