Never heard of RAD. We adopted six kids and this clarifies things about three of my children. I thought that I was reading about them. One is grown and gone on her own, just as manipulative, self centered and vicious as she was when she lived with us. One is 16 and the Lord has intervened in her life. She has really turned around. The third is 15. Still quite the trial, but God is working on him, too.
Our friends and family always thought that we were out of line in our child rearing habits because the three troubled kids were always so charming around everyone else.
Thanks for posting.
Trust me - every adult not on “Your Team” needs to be removed or have limited contact with your remaining children...
Everyone who does not understand this problem will look at you like some kind of witch...I have had teachers from various “Christian” schools do this to me - lied to me - had the child lie to me...until I got it...
Having a father with a masters in unconventional warfare and a combat vet doesn’t make the situation murky - it’s very clear and I react instantly...sucks for the RAD child...
Hang in there - I suggest the DVD set - great training — and gives you instant input on what to do - and you’ll see immediate changes! — but this is long term...hang in there — glad I could help!!!