AMEN, AMEN and AMEN!!!
Horror stories like the one you posted are I would NEVER get married in the USA.
I have a close childhood friend who is married and who has told me he's gone up on his roof with the intend to throw himself off of it as an alternative to getting divorced and having a “judge” tell him how he will live the rest of his life. He hasn't done it yet because he doesn't want his children traumatized and stigmatized.
What do you say to a person that's at that point? “Don't worry pal, this is Massholechusetts, and you'll get a fair shake in court?”
FWIW, I'd advised him to disappear and flee to another country or claim he's turned gay and file for divorce.
Tell him to man up and give life to his wife and children instead of whining and complaining like a girl.
—FWIW, I’d advised him to disappear and flee to another country...—
This. If the woman files for a “no fault” divorce and there are very young children involved, I would strongly recommend fleeing to another country. It may appear to be a “from the frying pan to the fire” sort of thing, but you have no idea just how screwed up your life can get when she uses the kids against you.
To give you a hint, I knew of one guy that spent $100,000 defending himself against preposterous accusations from his ex that he sexually molested his own children. Of course there was no proof. In family court the wife only has to make the claim in hopes of getting more money/autonomy.
Oh, and he won. But do you think it leaves a scar on everyone touched? And do you think there are any people who still think he “did it”?