One day he got a bit too much for me and tried to excuse his behavior by using the ADHD excuse. I looked at him and said "That's your problem, not mine. You're the one who is going to have to learn how to deal with it, not everyone else around you!"
It was like a light turned on in his head. Nobody had ever told him that.
I added "You can learn how to deal with it now, while you are surrounded by people who care about you or you can learn how to deal with it later, when you are on your own and nobody cares. Which will it be?"
The Dad (decent guy and a family friend) finally got full custody from his useless ex- was able to reclaim his kids about two months later and told me that was a transformational moment for his son. It is just sad that our asinine court system had to suck him dry financially before they finally did what was best for the kids and got the enabling ex- out of the picture, permanently.
“Not too many years ago, my wife and I took on a family of six foster kids, three girls 11-14 and three boys 6-9.”
Awesome save, Vigilanteman, way to go.