I have a relative in the midwest who is like your J&J friend. He is ignorant and misinformed (filled with NBC/CNN propaganda and will no doubt vote for Obama again). Entire blue state cities are filled with people who have drunk the Obama kool-aid. It's a lost cause with them until they get to experience the democrat damage via their children or their own finances. Even then, they'll blame everyone except democrats and Obama.
You're right. People who don't have contact with liberals in their life would be surprised that many live in their town, and they might still love obama. The woman I know said that weiner shouldn't resign since vitter didn't. This woman happens to be very cheap when it comes to spending her own money, yet she loves big-spending democrats.
I would like to avoid this woman, but she's related to a relative. You know what you're up against when you talk to her. BTW, she loves olbermann.