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>>> If we take the assumption that normal attraction is a man attracted to a woman and a woman attracted to a man, >>>

Where do we draw the line? Men who like women with shorter hair? Men who like athletic women versus feminine women? The point is, if you are married to a buxom blonde -because that’s what attracted you years ago - but become strangely attracted to a thin small breasted brunette, it is not proper to act on it because you are married. If you do, it’s a CHOICE even though the new strange attraction to a different type of woman is perhaps not a choice.

So it is in that sense that urge is irrelevant, in the sense that we have the choice of acting right or wrong in all areas of life regardless of our urges. As I said, I am speaking in the philosophical sense. Don’t we all have urge that are not choices but our choice to act or not is just that, a choice.

speaking purely philosophically, you can’t 100% make that assumption because no man is attracted to all women and no woman to all men - so right there you have the start of the breakdown of your equation.

Where did I say that 1 man is attracted to ALL women or vice versa? In your examples, the common denominator is that a man was attracted to a woman, whether it be short hair or blond hair or athletic shape or buxom, etc.

We do have the choice of the act itself. I am just saying that in SOME men and in SOME women, that choice may be extremely hard due to intense urges. And the start of those urges begins in the brain.