After having taken care of my mother for her last few days, I believe you owe it to your kids to have them care for you.
In our family, I was the one most likely *not* to be the caregiver. My sister had that role and I was thought to be the one who would swoop in, do a few things and run away. I certainly have not enjoyed trying to figure out how to tell my parents what they should do.
However, at the end, it didn’t work that way. I was tougher and more able to do the necessary things than I thought. I call that “Mama’s last lesson.” http://lifeethics.org/2007/04/08/mamas-last-lesson/
“After having taken care of my mother for her last few days, I believe you owe it to your kids to have them care for you.”
After having taken care of my father for his final 5 years I believe I’m far more qualified than you to determine what I should have my kids do for me should that situation arise.