[SamAdams76]

Regarding the pre-nuptials, I don't blame you one bit for protecting yourself. My point I was making was that if you even have to think about pre-nuptials, than maybe the person you intend to marry is not the right one. Keeping separate finances in a marriage can be a source of friction that can damage or unravel a lot of marriages. However, if both marriage partners are mature enough and come into the marriage already having established financial independence for themselves, perhaps pre-nuptials can be made to work.

My wife and I share the same philosophy concerning "presents" to each other. If either of us want something for ourselves, we tend to go out and get it. However, we agreed early on that either one of us would have "veto" power on any significant purchase. This tends to keep the both of us from wasting our money on something stupid or frivolous.

[BobL]

“However, we agreed early on that either one of us would have “veto” power on any significant purchase. This tends to keep the both of us from wasting our money on something stupid or frivolous.”

Us too...basic stuff you have to do. As to pre-nups, in hindsight, clearly not needed in my case. But I have friends, and they had bad experiences that they related to me. The bottom-line is that I would have walked from her if she wouldn’t sign. To me it shows two things, just how bad things are now and it also showed me what the girl was thinking. It’s not a bad test in these days.