Oops - my sense of humor failed to appear to some!
While it’s true I did say to the daughters and sons-in-law that I would be picking their son’s wives, it was because I was insinuating there would be no ‘perfect’ female for our grandsons, of course, therefore I would need to do the choosing because I would be older and wiser than they!
After having 4 daughters and no sons, these 5 grandsons-in-a-row was hilarious, and very precious! (The 6th came afer some granddaughters).
Therefore, I was moved to make the humorous declaration, and I intended to sound ‘bossy!’
I’ll be happy to be alive when they start marrying - the oldest is 23 - - - I would like to dance at their weddings. : )
As an aside, we have never lived near OUR families (USA states separating) after marriage. Can only wonder how that would have gone. Looking back, we kind of robbed some of them of their bonding with our kids....
But 3 of our daughters live near us.
We in no way intrude, but/and do babysitting for the youngest g-kids. And do holidays, etc. together. We’re all rather civil!
Thanks for clarifying. With regard to distance between relatives, we are living in a world that is much smaller than it was in previous generations. For example, one of my in laws moved to the Chicago a few years ago. Yet with Facebook, email, etc., we are very much up to speed on what is going on with each other and when we do get together, once or twice a year, the visits are much more pleasant as we are basically in “vacation” or “holiday” mode. Had Thanksgiving with them in Chicago last year and it was the best time we ever had with them - mainly because I knew we’d be hitting the road in just a few days! So we tended to get along rather nicely, despite our political and philosophical differences.
Hey sorry I missed it! Have to admit, it’s kind of a touchy subject for me, having heard of and seen a number of grandparents who have tried to undermine/usurp authority of their kids over their grandkids. In one family, the grandkids kept coming back from the grandparents’ home and would just be super, extra-bad - disobedient, rebellious, talking back, etc. - and they finally found out why: the grandparents were actively TELLING the kids not to listen to mommie and daddie. And end was put to that right quick, as you can imagine...