Oh, I agree, and in the multitude of counsellors, there is safety.
My main concern is just when grandparents refuse to let their kids raise their own kids. When kids have four or six people giving them often contradictory direction, that’ll confuse a kid like nothing else.
My wife and mine’s parents are both pretty good about it (though they also both live at least 500 miles away). There have a been a few times where I’ve had to (gently) tell my own mother how it is when she’s tried to interfere with our disciplining our son.
Believe me, I know. One of the reasons I live where I do is that my mother would have meddled in my marriage to much if we lived within driving distance. I feel bad for my child, in that she will not have the same family experience I did growing up, but it is better in the end.
Two of my grandchildren have grown up just across the street from us. They are great kids and have benefitted from 4 adults in their lives but I have always deferred to their parents in everything to do with their raising.