As an adoptee and adoptive parent, let me assure you the difference between adoption and IVF conception is very different. Adoptees are the product of an unplanned pregnancy vs IVF children which were produced in a petri dish to gratify the desires of one or two individuals. The one child's perception was excellent - they are a commodity.
We all have to take what we’re given and make the best of it.
That is an adult statement. Think back to your teen years, when hormones were churning and youth seeking an 'identity'. One of my best friends, an adoptee who grew up in a loving home with two parents, asked me to help track down information on her birth parents. It is a natural desire to want to know what you inherited from the dna of your biological parents. Is there a history of heart disease or some other illness, etc.?
I agree with all you say.
The need to know who we are is inherent. Were I adopted (and there are many adoptees in my family), I would certainly research my bio family, just for the knowledge of my origins.
I wish for all children, IVF or adopted, that they come to the point of acceptance. All were wanted, either at irregular conception or at adoption, which is not necessarily true of the natural-born.
What happens afterward, adolescence and the rigors and disappointments of life, is common to all mankind.
Sorry, but you're full of very stinky used food on that one.
I know a few IVF parents and, amazingly, they love their children just like they were (gasp!!!) real, human children.
"Commodities" my ass. Get off your high horse.
you are lumping donor IVF with couples who use the procedure to make their own genetic children.
The article should have focus exclusivly on the mental issues of a single mother anonymous donor aspect of this issue.