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Posted on 05/17/2011 6:21:03 AM PDT by NYer
(This article courtesy of the Arlington Catholic Herald.)
Truly sad what happens when people try to play the role of God.
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But please LOVE and EMBRACE these children, they did not ask to be born by this means.
The angst expressed by children in this article sounds much like that of many adopted children.
Sure, their experience is different, but are they better off than they would be otherwise? In the case of the in vitro kids, would they rather never have existed? Maybe so.
I’m not arguing the pros and cons of in vitro. The point is that we all look around ourselves and yearn for what we perceive is the better life of others.
There is no perfection on this earth. No family, no body, no collection of experiences called “life”.
We all have to take what we’re given and make the best of it.
Please love and embrace ALL children. None of them asked to be born into this imperfect world.
His documentation about the harms of IVF relates almost entirely to sperm donors. A lot of IVF is for couples who are having trouble to conceive the usual way. My sister did that for two of her babies. Do we know what percent of IVF pregnancies use either eggs or sperm from someone other than the parent?
>>But please LOVE and EMBRACE these children, they did not ask to be born by this means.<<
Why would you think that NYer wouldn’t?
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“But please LOVE and EMBRACE these children, they did not ask to be born by this means.”
I agree wholeheartedly. The problem is, with New Age, pop phsychology, they won’t find a constructive means to deal with their feelings. Instead most of them will end up in dysfunctional lifestyles while their overpriced shrinks tell them their behavior isn’t their fault, blah blah blah
As an adoptee and adoptive parent, let me assure you the difference between adoption and IVF conception is very different. Adoptees are the product of an unplanned pregnancy vs IVF children which were produced in a petri dish to gratify the desires of one or two individuals. The one child's perception was excellent - they are a commodity.
We all have to take what we’re given and make the best of it.
That is an adult statement. Think back to your teen years, when hormones were churning and youth seeking an 'identity'. One of my best friends, an adoptee who grew up in a loving home with two parents, asked me to help track down information on her birth parents. It is a natural desire to want to know what you inherited from the dna of your biological parents. Is there a history of heart disease or some other illness, etc.?
“A lot of IVF is for couples who are having trouble to conceive the usual way.”
It’s my hope that these couples gorw to accept their infertility & unite their sufferings with that of Christ on the Cross. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, and IVF is a perfect example of that. There is a reason why the Church is against it, & considers it immoral. It’s a pandora’s box
There is foster parenting, Adoption etc... available as well. For some childless couples they can act as support for other parents (and Yes I am speaking from experience).
I wonder if any of them suffer from the “why me” syndrome.
After all, many of their brothers and sisters don’t make it out of the embryonic state.
I was thinking much the same thing. Children can be conceived in other ways that are far from God’s plan of the fulfillment of a loving adult relationship: through rape, or casual sex, or even unwanted children.
There are many less than ideal circumstances. I’d guess more children than we’d like to admit find themselves in these.
I do NOT support IVF, ok, and I don’t know what these kids may be facing. However, there are plenty of babies conceived in war and rape, in one-night stands, etc. And there are plenty of kids who grow up not knowing who their dads are, or worse, knowing who they are and not being parented well.
These children have the gift of life to spend in any way they choose. Hopefully it is not all spent whining.
(Is that too harsh?)
I agree with all you say.
The need to know who we are is inherent. Were I adopted (and there are many adoptees in my family), I would certainly research my bio family, just for the knowledge of my origins.
I wish for all children, IVF or adopted, that they come to the point of acceptance. All were wanted, either at irregular conception or at adoption, which is not necessarily true of the natural-born.
What happens afterward, adolescence and the rigors and disappointments of life, is common to all mankind.
Jedediah, that is exactly what I was thinking. They are yearning for the loving embrace of an intact family with parents who love them. This is often NOT the reality of families, and what is visible from the outside is often not what is really going on.
I connected up with a childhood friend recently. She told me she had loved our family, it had seemed like Leave it to Beaver to her. “Really?” I responded. Our dad was really mean and angry, it was anything but the Cleavers. And yet ... it blessed her and we had so much, regardless.
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