I hate to burst your bubble, but my wife and I were the dreaded helicopter parents while our daughter was growing up. She was #3 in her HS class and missed the top 10 at TAMU by .05. My wife and I decided to have wife at home when our daughter was six months old. That did not matter even though my wife made almost twice my salary. That was the best decision we ever made. Dauther is now a very conservative, working member of society.
You are the exception. There are always exceptions. Good job.