Ear infections run in our family. When the eustachian tube fills up with mucus, the ear gets infected. Keeping the eustachian tube clear is important. My guess is that the ear infection never completely clears and he just catches everything that is going around at school/day care.
That’s why treating the symptoms is sometimes very important. On top of it all, the child is very difficult, extremely intelligent and manipulative. He started reading at the same time he started talking.
That’s what I was wondering (ear infections). We had the same problem with 2 of my 3 boys (altho they didn’t go to daycare as I was fortunate not to work when they were small). Fought it until we finally did tubes. I feel for you all. I don’t know if they do tubes in the ears as commonly nowadays (I know they change their ideas about this stuff) but back then, it sure was the magic bullet.
For awhile it seemed like one or the other was on antibiotics almost all the time (those two were only about 15 months apart in age).
We had a wonderful allergist (they also both had asthma) who helped a lot. Fortunately both outgrew most of it and are healthy and successful men today, but man, it was tough when they were little, and I used to hate people who sent their kids to school sick (when they were in preschool) because I knew they would catch whatever it was!