I know hundreds of daughters, though not all Chinese, forced to adhere to strict schedules in order to succeed that may not be in therapy but also do not speak of their childhood with much happiness.
Am I a failure? I had a fantastic childhood, limited pressure to succeed, friends, sports, camping, loving family...
But I went to a state school and only reached the level of a Master’s degree. Poor me! And I cut back on my schedule to spend lots of time with my kids and husband! Oh the humanity! What is wrong with me???
My dad worked in a factory for nearly 50 years. Happiest, most content guy I knew. Worked his way up to management. Supported his family. No college.
Please don’t now tell me how the Chinese mother is better than my mother or grandmother.
I agree with you.
But you know that...