[primeval patriot]

You have remained at home with your Mother?

I'll humor you.

What you must understand is that like *most* everyone else on this forum one must find employment.

As do the parents of the child - until their retirement.

Then what happens? Who cares for the mentally retarded adult when a wage earner has to clock in?

You ready to send you brother/sister into this? ---> Fight Club

[trisham]

I don’t think it’s necessary to humour me, but this previous post was a bit misleading, perhaps:

To: trisham
You’re kidding right? The entire surviving family’s functioning life revolves around his well-being. I’m now middle-aged and my mother is 70.

35 posted on April 19, 2011 3:19:59 PM EDT by primeval patriot (In the Badlands)

I did conclude that you were stating that your life was limited because of the necessity of the care you and your family were providing.

[mware]

My brother until his death in Feb. was the CEO of a mental health center in Ill.

It is of course dependent upon each individual person but many of the people my brothers worked with were able to function in group center homes.

Quite a few were able to hold down a job. If I recall, my brother said they had a very low absentee rate.

I do think I understand where you are coming from. It is not easy.

A dear friend of the family who was in her late 70's and had a Down's Syndrom child in her 50's told me once,that she went to her priest to confess, that she prayed that the Lord would take her child before she herself died, because she feared for who would care for her child when she died.