Yes, New Yorkers are a hard bunch to take. I like to remind people that despite their overwhelmingly stupid political views (which date at least as far back as their Copperhead tendancies during the Civil War), they lined up in the droves to give blood on 9/11 - only to find out that it was completely unneeded. Everyone was dead. Many risked death by volunteering to work on that damned hellacious site after the fall of the buildings. One liberal friend that I have is now suffering serious health problems because of his volunteerism.
But I completely understand where you are coming from. I am a born and bred New Yorker and even I don’t understand them.
I have a friend a few years older than I who was a member of the NYPD about fifty years ago. He has been in South Carolina for thirty or more years and has recently married for the fourth time and moved away so I don’t see him any more but he still sends me jokes and things by e-mail. He is amazingly blunt in speech, illogical at times, totally fearless, loyal to a fault and as honest as any person I have ever known. When the SHTF I want him with me.