I agree with you about defeatism and we do it all the time....guilty as charged. However, my issue to fight is abortion and getting rid of that massacre. I will always put forth my efforts towards that. I am 100 percent sure that others will take the gays in the military by storm. After 38 years of fighting the pro-abortion zealots, I wish them luck because they will need it.
That's understandable. In a way, though, they are really part of the same core problem, which is a tough one to fight, and has been fought for thousands of years.