“Someone decided that spending money is somehow a translation to showing love, which is an interesting, misguided relationship philosophy.”
Wrong. Women selecting mates who can care for them and their offspring’s material needs is a deeply rooted human behavior and not recently made up and decided upon by ‘someone’. Many aspects of human physiology, from the specifics of child-bearing to neurochemistry make it thus.
So is men being focused on appearance.
Doesn’t make either the female or male focus any less shallow.
We should be able to move past evolutionary imperatives. Seems to me that’s one reason we went to all the trouble to evolve into thinking beings. So we wouldn’t operate just on instinct.