I have not flown since Sept 2001, to my father's funeral, and I'm with you -- I will only fly again for a matter of life and death. I have no intention of being herded defenseless and pawed over and humiliated and treated like a prisoner.
I decided, instead, to drive -- and to make a road trip of it. I'm driving up the Blue Ridge Mountain expressway, sightseeing in DC, Gettysburg, and Hershey PA, then stopping in NY Amish country, overnighting in Canadaigua, then Rochester. It will be 4 days instead of 4 hours, but it will be a fun 4 days.
Screw the TSA.