I have three young kids and I couldn’t imagine having something like this on my shoulders. Maybe they could have done something different? Maybe they should have (whatever). All of that has to be going through their minds - and perhaps for good reason. Still, I’d hate to be in their shoes.
I agree with you, such judgmentalism here its disgusting. These people obviously loved their child, and their child perpetrated a heinous horrible act. There is no indication that these people raised this child to become a killer, or somehow contributed to his actions.. they deserve compassion. I cannot imagine what they must be going through.
I am sure they are second guessing everything right now. I cannot imagine how I would deal with my child doing such a thing.. I don’t believe they ever would, but I am sure there are many parents out there who never believed their child would ever become a drug addict, or criminal or prostitute or any other number of things. I am not naive enough to believe that childrens actions are always a result of bad upbringing or bad parenting.
I feel nothing but sorrow for this entire situation, if anything what should be focused on in the aftermath of this would be the pitiable state of mental health policy and care in the United States IMHO. Its disgusting how this nation deals with these issues. However, that serves no political purpose, and you can’t buy enough votes with it, so we’ll just keep on blaming right wing politics or left wing politics, or guns, or whatever, and not do a damned thing that matters.