“How many gays do you know personally?”
If I wanted to know who was a lesbian, do you think I’d be asking a guy? No. I’d be asking the women. Same with gay men. You want to know who’s gay, talk to the guys and listen to them.
Yeah, I’ve had a fair number as acquaintances, and friends, but I’ll tell you one thing about guys. There’s a side that they will show to other guys, and one that they show to girls. These are never the same.
“Can’t you get that he didn’t know, or if he did, he hid it well at the risk of being shunned and blacklisted by his family, friends and excommunicated by his church?”
I’ve known plenty in the same situation. And we’ve talked, just the two of us, nobody else. Catholics, mormons, etc.
There are signs if you are willing to look closely enough. I realise you feel offended by what I am saying, but I am speaking from experience.
If I were involved with a gal, and it later came out that she was dating another gal, and I was shocked, what do you think I’d be doing? I’d be looking around and asking myself, what is it about her that made me attracted to her?
Anyways, if you want to drag Mr. Reaganaut in to defend your honour, fine. But I doubt I’m saying anything here that you’ve not already thought about.
I apologise ma’am. I’ll be sure not to discuss such things with you in the future.