It all depends on the circumstances, the command, the custom, the deployment etcetera...
There are no hard and fast rules in the real world...
I was enlisted submarines, our relationship with zeros was much less formal and nonetheless respectful... I guarantee many respected and would have died under command and with these same officers that earned respect; did not demand it...
EVERY officer will have problems if homosexual sex practice is required to be respected... That is what this is all about
I am thankful that I served on fast attacks when I did.
It was a different world.
As a former SSN zero, I have to take issue with that statement. OTOH, there was a certain function to the "disrespect," the constant pushing and keeping everyone operating up to par, ensuring that everyone could be trusted in a tight spot (because you constantly put them to the test) and that they knew their stuff.
I guess I'm old school.
The only reason a XO of O6 rank would ever mention sex...broadcast to the entire crew...would be to talk about the dangers of VD and that if you spend your whole paycheck on whores in port you'll find yourself in the clap line.
We disagree.