My son is on the same page as you. There are lots of “unwritten” rules and traditions and there are ways things are dealt with.
No matter how much “education” is given, these gay soldiers will be surrounded by 99.9% of guys who won’t go for this new
“education”. They will have their strength in numbers.
Like my son told me, you work, you do your job but the minute you tell me you have a boyfriend or what you did with your gay friends on your free time over the weekend, I’m done with you. You broke the circle of trust. You are out. He says his entire platoon feels that way. They all have said that they will have to have their own barracks because not 1 will room with an open gay. I think the gays know that and the ones in combat companies know deep down that they will still have to keep it to themselves if they want to survive their enlistment.
This is the key and despite many here who haven't a shred of time in the service but just "know" how this will turn out, the soldiers will find their own way to solve the problem and the brass will be powerless to do anything about it if in fact they even seriously try (my guess is they won't).