No it’s not. It is reasonable and self-preserving.
I agree. Realistic pragmatism is the best approach. You must articulate your point from an intellectual perspective though, or it will get lost in the noise, and never see the light of day.
How can you articulate your point intellectually? Say this person was born in Europe. When a lib asks you the question why they should be treated any differently from a 10-100th generation european, what do you say, and how do you say it such that you show that your view comes from a heart of compassion and care about our world (which you MUST)?